Well I'm just over 6 months divorced and having terrible trouble with the whole situation. I needed six months to clear the fog but ex-wife has either moved on or doesn't feel her fog has lifted. Moved out Feb and tried to open lines of communication weeks ago. Although we are now talking basically everyday it is only surface stuff and not addressing our feelings. I guess that is a start.
She keeps giving me mixed signals. I will do my best to give her space but it is the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. I try and think of other things but can not seem to break the cycle yet.
I still have strong feelings for her and I predict she is going to be really hurt soon with our seconds childs birthday and then the holidays coming up. She has no family near and my family has started considering her a friend and has expressed feelings that she will not be welcome during those traditional family times.
I guess I have to sit on the sidelines, work on me and see what happens.
We were married for 19 years and together 22.
Patiece my friend.
I am going through the same thing and it's hard.
Although, we haven't divorced. but separted 4 months. The fog is lifting and we are talking alot more.
Don't expect to get to the deep issues for some time. Some things may never come up due to embarrassment.
Just work on the situation at hand and take it show.
Although, we aren't back together yet.
but some real progress is being made.
last night, where she lives with her brother and sister in law. The sister in law was itching to talk to my son and his gf big time, since my wife was at work.
Plus, for what the sons gf says, the sister in law seems to think the wife will be moving back home in a week or two.
I don't know, I am just hearing bits and pieces and alot of speculating.
being that she lives with her brother and his wife. they would probably know exactly what is going on, with the ife talking to them and etc.
I just hope they are right.
Then again, I would love to hear it from her.
But who knows. We are supposed to go work out together afterwhile. That, or I'm sure, I'll talk to her sometime tonight.
But, in the mean time..be strong and patient.
Unfortuatily, these things take time and time isn't easy thing to deal with.