The 180 plan seems like a way to put a sudden hindrance to "sabotage behavior" within the marriage.
This kind of emotionalism works against efforts to come to resolution and understanding within the marriage. It is a tactic used to bring dissolution "to a head" in the relationship by a dissatisfied and perhaps fed up marriage partner.
In the "Art of War"
this is described the following way: "Where local interests fight among themselves on their own territory, this is called a ground of dissolution."
Becoming emotionally "empty" in the face of emotionally "full" attack, the Art of War
could be said to advice the following in which the '180 plan' may correlate:
"So in the case of those who are skilled in attack, their opponents do not know where to defend. In the case of those skilled in defense, their opponents do not know where to attack.
Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent's fate."
"When you do not want to do battle, even if you draw a line on the ground to hold, the opponent cannot fight with you because you set him off on the wrong track.
Therefore when you induce others to construct a formation while you yourself are formless, then you are concentrated while the opponent is divided.
When you are concentrated into one while the opponent is divided into ten, you are attack at a concentration of ten to one, so you outnumber the opponent."
"Your battleground is not to be known, for when it cannot be known, the enemy makes many guard outposts, and since multiple outposts are established, you only have to do battle with small squads."
I have decided that "stonewalling" as a means of causing your attacking spouse to "guess" where you are coming from for a time may be a good tactic. Stonewalling emotionally, drawing a line in the sand, and walking away brought my fiance and myself to a place where emotional craziness in our relationship was halted. After that time of separation we could come back together free from internal sabotage.
It was one of the things that saved our relationship... even before we got married.
I do not know if a comparison to the "Art of War"
is needed here, but understanding conflict strategy from it might be helpful to someone.