Re: Any 180 success stories????
It's working on me.
It also is working on my wife, even though, i tend to break some of the rules at time.
It's hard sometimes not to respond.
Like yesterday, I wrote her and told her, i was walking away from us.
This morning, she sent me an email, basically still living in the past.
So, i sat down and wrote her a long, long email. I know, i shouldn't have. But felt, since i couldn't get some of the things addressed. i would adress them then.
I told her, i wasn't afraid of losing her. that I was at cross roads with her and didn't know what to do anymore.
I also took full blame for everything.
I explained some things.
but also did it to get them off my chest and plant seeds. When I've done those things in the past..she tends to wanna nibble for more, once i closed up afterwards.
This last stand was to merely tell her..i can't change the past. that we both did some things wrong, that it was toottaly up to her, if she wanted to try and work things out with me. I would not date her or try..unless she kicked her boyfriend to the curb.
I was very firm with her on that because she keeps bringing it up to me. I told her, I'm not second class material and not going to take her out so she can run home to him. if she wanted him, i was fine by that. I wasn't going to be in an open relationship.
Yes, it's working the hell out of me. I feel much better, more confident about myself. Plus it tends to get her to notice me as well. But she is still in the fog and scared.
That's fine..she can be foggy all she wants and scared.
I'm not going to be scared anymore.
As I told her, I have A LOT of passion built up inside me on life. That I want to experience new things, go places. But if she didn't want me to do those things with anyone else. She better get off her ass..lol
Yes, it's hard. but the more and more..I put total effort into the 180, the more and more..she notices and comes out kicking and screaming for attention.
It's a matter of time.
Right now, she see's me an an arrigant pr*ck. Full of confidence and balls big enough to fit in the back of any truck.
She's also notices how, I've lost about 40 lbs in the last 3-4 months from working out alone. that my muscles are starting to chisel and she has gained (No lie) what I have lost.
So, that's a sgn of her not being happy.
Time and patience are two things that are tough for us to deal with.
But yes, the 180 works.
I also recommend "Manning Up" and No More, Mr. Nice Guy.
With the combo of those 3 things.
You'll reclaim your man card back in no time.