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anx · 07-11-2011, 11:42 PM

James Dobson. He is a christian author, but many people still suggest the book towards everyone. Sorry, the book is named "love must be tough" not "tough love"

The book is in most barns and nobles or local book stores. I get a lot of my books online used at amazon.com or half.com

You can read the first chapter for free at amazon.com. On the right hand side of the page there is a "Read the first chapter FREE".
Amazon.com: Love Must Be Tough (9780849913419): James C. Dobson: Books

If you can comfortably read things online or on your phone (iphones and android phones have a free kindle or nook app), you can get it from either amazon.com (kindle) or barnesandnoble.com (nook). It 10$ to download and read that way. I've been meaning to get more books that way because you have have them instantly to read and they are usually cheaper than physical books.

I really hope your story works out. Best of luck and God bless.

believergirl · 07-14-2011, 10:12 PM

I got today THE DIVORCE REMEDY BOOK, I wander if it is too late
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anx · 07-14-2011, 10:57 PM

There is no way to know if its too late. The only hope though is to stand up for yourself and do what is right. He has to chose to either lose you or chose you completely.

I really suggest at least reading the first chapter of love must be tough since its free.

Best of luck and God bless

believergirl · 07-15-2011, 02:30 PM

I'M LOST
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anx · 07-15-2011, 02:55 PM

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believergirl · 07-18-2011, 01:06 PM

I'm confused, there are times that I lose my faith, there is not communication between us at all, last Tuesday he left and didn't come back for the rest of the week, didn't even call to check on the kids. On friday he texted.me to let me.know that he was gonna take the girls to sesame place and he asked to prepare a bag for them. I felt really bad, i never wanted something like this to happen, but I'm living it and it hurts.
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anx · 07-18-2011, 01:42 PM

I'm at largely the same spot at times. It's so hard to keep faith when it hurts this bad and improvement is slow or not at all. It's hard to be the person who wants the relationship and far easier to walk away. Vows lol.

I contacted my wife several times last week and I was basically told in mc that I need to stop.

I agree that loneliness is processed in the same part of the brain as pain. I agree it hurt. It's almost a physical pain.

Best of luck and God bless.
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believergirl · 07-18-2011, 10:08 PM

Anx, I don't know your story, but I have read your posts and you seem to be very mature, what is wrong in your relationship. I wish you the best
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anx · 07-18-2011, 11:58 PM

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/reconci...n-success.html

This is my story but I haven't updated it for my now second separation.

believergirl · 07-19-2011, 02:34 PM

I'm so frustrated, I'm so upset, I just can't believe he is so cold, is he going thru a midlife crisis? Does he want to punish me because of my behavior in the past? Or am I so blind that I don't accept that is over? I need to move on, I need to learn how to let go, I'm furious right now, I'm not gonna let him bring me down anymore, I'm way better than he is, I'm more moral, and smart too.
That is it, it is time to turn around the table, it is my turn now. It is my time.
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anx · 07-19-2011, 08:16 PM

I think that is really good. You cannot stand by and be ok with your husband treating you like that and doing immoral things. If your husband comes back asking to reconcile, consider it then, but get him out of your life or draw very clear boundaries for now while he treats you like this.
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believergirl · 07-20-2011, 03:06 PM

What can I do for a miracle to happen ? How can I make utter fall in love with me again? Is it possible?, please help
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believergirl · 07-20-2011, 03:07 PM

Make him fall in love with......****
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anx · 07-20-2011, 03:26 PM

You can't make him. He has to decide that on his own. We all have free will to do with as we want.

If he is still with the other woman, get him out of your life. It hurts like bell for 2-3 months and then you will start to really fins happiness alone. It's from that position of power with your husband and strength and love for yourself with or without him that you'll find happiness again with your husband or with someone else.

You need to love and respect yourself before its possible for him to do that to you. I know it hurts like hell. I'm just coming off of a deep depression and seeing happiness where there was none alone.

Wait and pray. Expect to wait months, but something shorter is possible. Make yourself right with you faith and get involved in that. Find a deeper connection there while you don't have one with you husband.

Best of luck and God bless.

believergirl · 07-20-2011, 08:15 PM

I'M REALLY CONFUSED
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