Re: Wow... that is all
I don't know how it is in America OP but in other countries it's actually illegal to leave a child under the age of 12 home alone, even while just going down the road for errands. It's heartless - to think of him being in the house alone & scared. This in itself I would have thought would be enough to get full custody. It's disgraceful. Imagine if he panicked, ran out of the house down the road looking for her & got lost. I don't even like to think about it as I'm sure you don't.
Try asking your kids about the time she left your child alone & record it, e.g. on your iPhone. You can play that to the mediator.
Make sure you document absolutely everything from now on to bring it with you to mediations. You can even ask the kids' teachers, diplomatically, to send you a note/email when the kids haven't done their homework or anything else that is amiss the nights they stay with her.
Withholding homework to do it over the holidays flies in the face of the reason kids get holidays as we adults do, to relax and rest with no homework to do. Try fitting that into 'parenting style'.
Can't say much for the mediator and her talk of parenting 'style'. What nonsense. Ask her next time what she thinks of an 8 year old kid being left home alone & how 'parenting style' fits into that.
It is very disruptive for kids if they have to do homework in one parents' house & not the other. They need routine. Perhaps you can visit one, explain what' going on & get them to write a report for you to bring along too. The more armoury you have, the better.
I'm so sorry you are going through all this.
PS Interesting that you said she does very well at her real estate job. So she's quite capable if she wants to be. I too suspect a mental health problem, in the Cluster B classification. But it can be difficult to prove & I can't imagine her allowing herself to be appraised by a psychiatrist.
"We just kissed".
Last edited by Moonshadow; 04-23-2016 at 07:19 PM.