Almost sure this post does not belong here but really need some positives today...
My wife and I got separated (I moved out of house) in November last year) but we had no sexual activities since December 2009. I had my share making this happening (I was abusive) but my wife had at least one if not two EA over internet. In July last year she could not stand us staying together and initially she wanted to move out and then she asked me to move out which I did.
Since than, I have work really hard on my self. I am not sure about her. She still claims that she does not know what she wants. We have improve our relation ship big time but still she does not want to do canceling, talking about getting together.. nothing. We had a couple of trips together and it was wonderful but she is still attached to these virtual friends and I feel they are being more important than I. Example, I have asked her last night about doing something together this weekend but asked her let's go if you really want to go with me. Not because I already paid for activities, not just ok.. do you really want to go with me. She would not bother answering me and I know she is checking her emails constantly. After 5 hours waiting I told he just to forget it. This morning she got upset, stating that I did not give her a chance to answer, that I am making decisions for her and she does not appreciate that. Beside that she claims that I have change a lot, she really appreciate what I have done and what I am doing for her and kids. Quite often she will apologize for some things she did in the past.
I am really being inpatient? It has been past a year that she told me she wants separation, nine months I am out of house, almost two years no physical between us..
Am I being unreasonable? Ladies, please help me understand "my woman" which I love more than my life.
She just asked me to have a coffee tonight.. Yes I will go but I know there will be no discussion about us. Probably it will be only how she is not her self, asking me to be patient with her, to be reasonable with her, to have mercy etc...
I still have strong feelings for her and having hard time to move on.
I am confused as this post must be.