Re: suggestions on how to reconcile
If she leaves you, let her go. You were in over your head. Be a good dad in whatever capacity you can.
Make a wiser choice next time around, if it comes to that.
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man