Re: My story, looking for advice.
My first thought is your still rug sweeping the affair(S).
I try keep my posts from being too negative, but this one is NEGATIVE. Bail out now or read on at your own risk. I'm gonna be blunt and direct.
Your xw has been having wild freaky sex doing things she would never do with you, with someone else.
She cheated on you multiple times. By forgiving her, and allowing her to come back, just gives her permission to keep looking for the next c@ck to ride.
You can forgive someone for your own mental health, not dwell on it for the sake of the kids, but you DON'T need to set yourself up, bend over & grab your ankles so that person can kick you in the b@lls again!!
If she has such little respect for you, will she be giving the play by play commentary when you are intimate. POS A stroked me better than you, and POS B pulled my hair, (which I liked), and you don't.
I am not knocking you. YOU could be the worlds most loving, caring, most positive husband, your xw is messed up, and is not a reflection of you.
I betcha if you go into counseling, it will be YOUR fault for her cheating. Why you literally forced her to yank down her panties for the POSOM"S.
You have 2 years of separation where your heart has started to heal. Don't tear off the scabs.
I am usually pro marriage, but your posts really touched a nerve in me.
addition - The reason I am being blunt is this, if you get back together, at some point, something will be said or done, and the veil will be lifted from your eyes. Your SO will say or do something that will trigger you, and the years of hurt will cascade down on you in a wave like you have NEVER experienced. Don't rug sweep, the resentment will only build within you.
Last edited by FrazzledSadHusband; 01-09-2016 at 12:45 AM.
Reason: additional thoughts