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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 02-11-2016, 10:01 AM
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Re: Husband is Making Little Effort

1-Husband unhappy in marriage.
2-Husband finds someone else on the side.
3-Husband says he wants a divorce.
4-Wife agrees.
5-Husband now free to pursue girlfriend.
6-Husband realizes grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence.
7-Husband comes back.
8- go back to #1

Unless the real issue as to why there are problems in the marriage are resolved, then #7 should be "Divorce".

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post #17 of 18 (permalink) Old 03-10-2016, 06:11 AM
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Re: Husband is Making Little Effort

Per 225985 post: "He is not embarrassed. He should be remorseful but he is not. He is only ACTING that he wants to reconcile."
He is right. I am in the same situation. H keeps saying he wants to leave the OW and wants to come back to the house, but i am not seeing any efforts to show remorse in regards to what he did. I am not gonna be a doormat.

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post #18 of 18 (permalink) Old 05-14-2016, 02:56 AM
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Re: Husband is Making Little Effort

He is playing you big time, don't let him.

He is not remorseful, the OW probably didn't quite work out so you are his plan B. You are right to stick to your guns with regard to the things he needs to do to work on the marriage
In the meantime, work on you, you got this far without him. Get IC for yourself, explore your own needs, flaws, etc, become a better person for you.
I do not believe it did not go physical, that sounds like codswallop, don't fall for that. Being on a weekend away with a person of the opposite sex is enough for some people to divorce over.
You are being too soft and too desperate, show him you are moving on and if he isnt getting with the programme you will find someone who will.

If you act like you want him back he will not do anything to change, why should he?
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