Re: False Reconciliation without all the Facts
I edited this after some afterthought:
I started this thread to discuss the issue of coming clean about an affair before R can be attempted. And based on the opinions posted, I tend to agree that the repair of the marital relationship must be grounded in honesty. But you should never do or say anything to intentionally hurt your spouse, especially just for selfish reasons to "clear your conscious". So, a basic admission of "I was disrespectful and was not a good spouse to you" should suffice, in addition to ending the affair, becoming transparent, expressing remorse, apologizing, etc.
The success of marriage comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the ability of both partners to adjust to the real person they inevitably realize they married - John Fischer
Last edited by MAJDEATH; 03-06-2016 at 05:41 PM.