Wake up. There's more to this than you think.
The affair may be over...this affair
may be over. This guy [may] or [may not] be still in her life, in her thoughts, in her plans.
If it is over with this guy, will there be more... men
She may still be playing the field, sorting through the duds.
Duds, not dudes! Some are both. She may be sifting and sniffing, still.
The timeline is on her terms. Accept that. Move on. Let her see you doing well.
Create your own terms. No clinging or drama from you.
This may inspire her to give you a real chance. She is thinking about it. That is obvious with the short dates and all.
Stand tall and have pride in yourself....politely pull back, do the 180 response. Be too busy for her. She is in an uncomfortable spot, keep her there, force HER hand, do not let her do the reverse psychology on you.
The 180 will pay off, within a month or so. Yea or Nay.
Both outcomes are good, in the long run.