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post #31 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-27-2016, 03:46 PM
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Re: How long does reconciliation take?

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If he had a 2 week EA, he was probably checked out of the marriage for 6 months or more, so 1.5 yrs is about right for full R with trust returning.
This is the KEY point.

Emotions rule - not actions.

Someone decides they're done and they mail it in and "quit" - but they stay.

The "soon to be betrayed spouse" makes some sort of internal bargain and trudges forward.

But, you're already "on the clock"

The affair may be brief, or whatever. It's the duration of how long you were not connected without any sort of "re-connection" that makes this rule true.

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If he had a 2 week EA, he was probably checked out of the marriage for 6 months or more, so 1.5 yrs is about right for full R with trust returning.
This is the KEY point.

Emotions rule - not actions.

Someone decides they're done and they mail it in and "quit" - but they stay.

The "soon to be betrayed spouse" makes some sort of internal bargain and trudges forward.

But, you're already "on the clock"

The affair may be brief, or whatever. It's the duration of how long you were not connected without any sort of "re-connection" that makes this rule true.
This is so true! Emotional investment in the relationship is key, without it you are just going thru the motions. I wish I had known this fact back then.
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Re: How long does reconciliation take?

Let's be perfectly honest Bronco...your plan B...she can tell you anything you want to hear and you can tell yourself anything you want to believe but deep down you will alway be plan B.
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