Originally Posted by thread the needle View Post
New members first post at a different place in his process than you.
Compassion would have been helpful. Help is the point of TAM remember?
Turning new members into punching bags that come here seeking help and support isn't cool.
Whatever your problem is, I hope you figured it out before you unleash the unhelpful mean spirited crap on the next new person that comes in here hurting and seeking support and insight delivered with kindness and patience
Two thumbs down. Some get too comfortable here and forget the point of being here.
It isn't take cheap shots at the vulnerable. Go kick puppies somewhere else maybe or join a boxing league and beat someone up that wants to fight with you.
To OP, the timing of reconciliation varies with the values activities and milestones achieved. There are no dependable rules other than it depends on all the variables. At this point I don't think she is ready for what you want but you appear to need to work on yourself any way. Good luck
I actually punch hamsters.
Your situation is ridiculous thus my frustration.
You are aiming too low and don't think highly enough of yourself.
My advice is to let her go. You do not have a healthy individual self image and no self respect.
She is definitely not in a position to reconcile. She left to play and is still playing with you.
She should not have taken vows and then decided to play games with your life.
Please look up the 180 and start doing it. Tell her to grow up and get help, IC, before approaching you again and that doesn't include screwing other people!
You should probably at least have divorce papers drawn up and have her served.
The process can be called off if she stops playing games gets serious about being a grownup, married woman!
You need to establish firm and healthy boundaries for yourself and stop putting up with her selfish and childish behavior. Posted via Mobile Device