Winning her back!
This is my first post, my wife kicked me out of the house at the end of January. We have both done many things to one another throughout our 5 year relationship. In the beginning I was very in again off again with her, while she gave me her complete devotion and tried so very hard to keep me interested. Well it worked. Throughout most of our marriage we have had to live with family. My family tends to be a bit overprotective and very mean to significant others. I allowed my family to verbally and emotionally abuse her for a very long time. I didn't know how to handle the situation, should I take my families side or that of my wife. Needless to say I know the answer now. After I let this go on for so long she became somewhat distant and a few months later I was told she had cheated numerous times. I forgave her but never truly forgot. More affairs happened and I even had a few brief encounters, though never sexual, with other women. When we finally started getting better I was the one to continue making mistakes. I was distrustful of her, and constantly nagging her whenever she was gone without me. I objectified her and made it seem like all I wanted was sex. I got so bad that the intimate moments we did have were ruined by my addiction for more sex. And when I was not satisfied I would accuse her of things and be hateful. After her enduring this for so long I understand what made her drift away again. She apologized for her actions but I never did until today.
So after being apart for less than 2 months she has a new boyfriend. From what I have gathered just in talking it seems like she only has him around to make her comfortable and to make me jealous.
Today when bringing our children back to her, I was able to have a brief conversation. The past week I have been blowing up her phone for no apparent reason pouring out the same mindless crap over and over. I wanted her to see me face to face. I wanted her to see that I meant business and that I would be the husband she always knew I would be. She was rather dismissive but at the same time I saw in her eyes that she cares still, no matter how many times she says she doesn't live me anymore I can see different.
I need to know how I can prove my love to her without being there with her. I want her to see I am the man she fell in love with again. I have done so many things tobher that I know I probably don't deserve a second chance, but everything in me says to keep fighting. I just know that the way I have been going about it is more problematic than helpful. I'm nagging and not giving her the space she needs. I just don't know how much space is enough, how do I know what to say and how to say it without going overboard.
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