Re: Almost divorced, but reconciliation on the cards
Andy don't do it. I have been following your threads all along and basically I advised you in your post last year when you discovered her infidelity (if you remember the beer bottles, and then while paying Amazon for her on her computer, the message from him and her reply that popped up).
She lied about it and deceived you. She hooked up with him on New Year's Eve while you were at home with the kids - bad enough.
Then you had barely left the home (because she insisted and you were thinking of her and the kids when you left) and she had him in your bed in your home - the height of disrespect.
And now you are considering going back to her ?!?!? You are not her first priority. She wants back with you because she is comfortable with you - not because she is in love or wants you for any other reason.
You have already seen that you can be without her and can co-parent well enough. So don't go back to the misery. Let the divorce happen and as others are saying, let her compete with some of the other hot women (waiting to date you) before she earns her right for another chance. That and a ton of truth, remorse and repair work that she needs to do (although I don't think she is anywhere near up to the task ahead).
Tread very carefully here as you have come a long way since then.
This is my quest, to follow that star
No matter how hopeless, no matter how far
To fight for the right, without question or pause
To be willing to march into Hell, for a Heavenly cause