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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 06-09-2016, 04:22 PM
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Re: Reconciling with wife of 5 years

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Your W sounds like she has anger issues at minimum. My W has these issues too, and I insisted that she deal with them or else I was walking. She did so, and I am seeing real results in our marriage. We are both much happier.

You don't mention the "breakdown" that led to the original estrangement but if it had to do with your W vomiting her bile all over you at the slightest (read: NO) provocation, then you can bet your life you've got someone on your hands with serious mental health issues that need to be addressed.

Unless you are OK with the berating, walking on eggshells, tantrums, etc (and I suspect this incident is not the first time, because these folks can't keep a lid on their anger and explode regularly), I would at minimum, let her know you won't tolerate this kind of behavior.

Nothing you do will ever be "enough" to make her happy, because her issues have nothing to do with you. They will, however, make YOU miserable if you let them.
+1 I agree.

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post #17 of 18 (permalink) Old 06-10-2016, 10:47 PM
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I heard the same thing from my H. ILYBNILWY. I also got the brunt of his anger. Turns out he was having an affair with a co-worker. You should investigate more.

If she has an issue with you reading her email that's also a red flag. My H was using a wicker app on his iPhone to communicate with his OW. It deletes messages after they are read and don't show up on a cell phone bill.
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Re: Reconciling with wife of 5 years

Once you get the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" I would say 999 times out 1000 she/he is cheating on you.
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