I'm working on reconnecting with my wife after a break down in the relationship. No one else involved.
We have been getting on fine and I have been working hard to be a good husband.
I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced their wives having a go at them and acting unreasonable to them during reconciliation.
For example, I'm currently redoing the whole garden. Building decking laying turf etc. I just had a phone call from her berating me for not doing the smallest of things. I'm confused as all my time is invested into the getting the garden finished, that's what my wife wants, but then she has a massive rant at me about silly stuff.
We have been getting on fine and reconciliation has been going well, I now feel that it's going backwards instead of forwards
Any advice appreciated
Your W sounds like she has anger issues at minimum. My W has these issues too, and I insisted that she deal with them or else I was walking. She did so, and I am seeing real results in our marriage. We are both much happier.
You don't mention the "breakdown" that led to the original estrangement but if it had to do with your W vomiting her bile all over you at the slightest (read: NO) provocation, then you can bet your life you've got someone on your hands with serious mental health issues that need to be addressed.
Unless you are OK with the berating, walking on eggshells, tantrums, etc (and I suspect this incident is not the first time, because these folks can't keep a lid on their anger and explode regularly), I would at minimum, let her know you won't tolerate this kind of behavior.
Nothing you do will ever be "enough" to make her happy, because her issues have nothing to do with you. They will, however, make YOU miserable if you let them.