SunC - I sort of see what you are saying, I continue to be sacrificial, but I'm only human.
Other parts you are speaking Greek to me here. What exactly are you saying.
On TAM, the chorus sings the Highest Praise to those that can escape "Victim-hood by reaching the "Indifferent-Mind" summit.
By being indifferent to those that betrayed you or harmed you, they can no longer "touch" your feelings. They can no longer cause you any pain.
This can be the 50K feet reference also. You are up high and away from your problems and looking down at them.
This certainly helps. It is a good point to be in/at for most of mankind.
It requires of you to be in one of two [likely] states of mind.
1) Indifferent to a single individual or small group of people....the "pain in the azzes" that need to be made powerless. Good if attainable.
2) Numb to the world. This is the most common feeling that a BS feels. They no longer trust "anyone" or anything. Not good.
Indifference is the Code of the Zombies! Having no feeling, even for one human being or situation is NOT the ideal.
The IDEAL would be fully knowing, accepting and forgiving the trespasses of those whom you share the Earth.
And yes, especially those whom are closest to you...intimate with.
If you can accept the fact that men/women are flawed, are not really capable of changing to any large degree, you are on the way toward real happiness.
Knowing that people can be and often are selfish and egocentric and that they cannot or will not change requires Saint-like awareness.
Forgive them for their shortcomings. But do not forget their trespasses. Get away from those that harm you.
Good Luck with that. More than likely you will merely compartmentalize those people and problems.....away. Out of your conscious mind!
See what I mean!
Even the Ancient Greeks, save Socrates, Plato and a few others could get themselves to that plane of thought.