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post #16 of 81 (permalink) Old 08-11-2016, 03:27 PM Thread Starter
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Well I'd wait a good ten years before I remarried her.
Lol yeah it would have to be a for sure thing. Idk I just haven't seen this kinda attention from her in years.

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Confidence issues no. I gained 40 lbs a muscle so lack of having other girls around is not the issue.
Come now confidence doesn't come from having girls around, or interested in you. The fact that you even say that shows you don't get it.
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Yes I know she has that issue. She has been taken care of her whole life. She hasn't been out on her own yet. Still lives with her mom. Her ex though was broke and she had to pay for everything. So she did have a guy she had to take care of. Smh lol
I was talking about you dude. It takes 2 to be codependent.
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Confidence issues no. I gained 40 lbs a muscle so lack of having other girls around is not the issue.
40 lbs of muscle?

Call me skeptical...

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Confidence issues no. I gained 40 lbs a muscle so lack of having other girls around is not the issue.
Come now confidence doesn't come from having girls around, or interested in you. The fact that you even say that shows you don't get it.
Then feel me in confidence that I can keep someone happy? If that's the question then no I fear that
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Yes I know she has that issue. She has been taken care of her whole life. She hasn't been out on her own yet. Still lives with her mom. Her ex though was broke and she had to pay for everything. So she did have a guy she had to take care of. Smh lol
I was talking about you dude. It takes 2 to be codependent.
I understand that I've had her for 10 years but I've been independent on my own for 8 months and I was good until she stepped back in my life after I told her, I will never make you happy a second time if I couldn't the first. Then she started blowing me up.
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Confidence issues no. I gained 40 lbs a muscle so lack of having other girls around is not the issue.
Don't need muscle to attract girls/women.

Anyway, perhaps your x does realize you do care. Or she has found out the dating just is not what it used to be. Or, it is not her cup of tea. Whatever the case, you appear to be a willing participant for the moment. Keep it light.

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Confidence issues no. I gained 40 lbs a muscle so lack of having other girls around is not the issue.
40 lbs of muscle?

Call me skeptical...
Well believe me I went from 167 when she left and I'm at 210 now and I lived in the gym while I was going trough this. 6 to 7 days a week.
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Confidence issues no. I gained 40 lbs a muscle so lack of having other girls around is not the issue.
Don't need muscle to attract girls/women.

Anyway, perhaps your x does realize you do care. Or she has found out the dating just is not what it used to be. Or, it is not her cup of tea. Whatever the case, you appear to be a willing participant for the moment. Keep it light.
No I understand muscles don't make a man. She just always talks about it now that she sees me more often. I am willing. I never stopped thinking about her even when I was talking to another girl. I'd do anything to get my wife and my family back.
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I understand that I've had her for 10 years but I've been independent on my own for 8 months and I was good until she stepped back in my life after I told her, I will never make you happy a second time if I couldn't the first. Then she started blowing me up.
Well, that may not be true. You stated that your where all about yourself and the job. You can change that and provide what she said was missing or lacking in the relationship. I have been there. My priority changed....and for better.


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No I understand muscles don't make a man. She just always talks about it now that she sees me more often. I am willing. I never stopped thinking about her even when I was talking to another girl. I'd do anything to get my wife and my family back.
Well sir, what was it that separated you two? Fix that and move forward.

An old dog can learn new tricks. For years I treated my wife like another mouth to feed. A room mate. Not much more. Not until 18 years did I finally get what she wanted. Not muscle, cash, cars or houses. She wanted me. That other stuff was secondary. I fixed that. We are more very happily married now.

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I understand that I've had her for 10 years but I've been independent on my own for 8 months and I was good until she stepped back in my life after I told her, I will never make you happy a second time if I couldn't the first. Then she started blowing me up.
Well, that may not be true. You stated that your where all about yourself and the job. You can change that and provide what she said was missing or lacking in the relationship. I have been there. My priority changed....and for better.
I have changed that I realize over time and money isn't the thing that will make me happy it's my family. We actually do a lot of stuff together with our girls rant we would have never done before.
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No I understand muscles don't make a man. She just always talks about it now that she sees me more often. I am willing. I never stopped thinking about her even when I was talking to another girl. I'd do anything to get my wife and my family back.
Well sir, what was it that separated you two? Fix that and move forward.

An old dog can learn new tricks. For years I treated my wife like another mouth to feed. A room mate. Not much more. Not until 18 years did I finally get what she wanted. Not muscle, cash, cars or houses. She wanted me. That other stuff was secondary. I fixed that. We are more very happily married now.
That's what I'm trying to prove to her now. That that's what I want too. Her and the kids first and everything else second. All she has said since she left was that she wanted to be my first place and not second to anything else.
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There was no cheating. She found this guy well after we decided to divorce. Well it was her decision.
Either way, you're plan B.
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Take it very slowly and cautiously. The big reasons you broke up you both remember. It is the other 10,000 little piddly things that you forget about...until they come around again and cause the same heartaches.

Take it slow. Go to couples counseling. You may be able to co-habitate again, but don't get remarried. You have both proven to each other you cannot handle marriage.
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