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post #61 of 81 (permalink) Old 08-18-2016, 01:07 PM
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Her friend sent me screen shots of there convo. Then she found out and wasn't mad at all. We even talked about it. She has been staying over a lot.
I'd be suspicious of that.
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She said I deserved better than her but that's what she doesn't realize she is my want.
This is beautiful. There is a lot to work with here.

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
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40 lbs of muscle?

Call me skeptical...
He said in an earlier post that he WAS a jerk.

He put on 40 lbs. of muscle.

Either he is exaggerating or he was on steroids.

He wanted to do better with the "jerk" technique while lifting weights.

Some of juice may have spilled out of his mouth while he did the light weight repetition jerk action with his wife.

Roids give rage.

Dunno? Being sarcastic.."a-gin" !

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I'm not owning her cheating but the demise of our marriage yes. I was a horrible husband but great provider
Don't try to save it.

You have been friend-zoned. She wants you as a girlfriend, not a lover. Let her go and move on.
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Interesting.

So, were you abusive? I kept waiting for you to provide more information, but you seem convinced you were the bad guy. I ask because you keep saying this:
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We divorced because I put my wants and needs also my job. Before her and the girls. I was a straight up jerk all the time. Of course we are both at fault she wasn't perfect either. We discussed all this recently. I would chose to go to work over doing family activities together, and when I was home I wanted to be left alone. All things I learned were wrong now and she sees a change in me.
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I want the fairytale wife that cooks and cleans. I did all of the house work before cook clean laundry.

I'm just curious of the entire back story now. I'm curious if you have your hindsight 20/20 glasses on at the highest rose color spectrum.

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No you are right. She even said I'm the only guy that can make her not want to be with that guy even though he cheated on her. Smh idk why
No way, sorry just no. What happens when you get mad? I applaud her honesty, but you should listen to what she told you.

How this red flag doesn't send you running I do not know. She told you this guy still has a place in heart, but you think things have changed. You just found out she cheated on you, is still in love with a cheater and you have fallen for the sweet nothings whispered in your ear.

I do have one question, was she cheating on her ex-boyfriend when you two had your various flings?
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As much as I enjoyed the sarcasm I'm now wondering your stance.
Cheater or victim?

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Krazy finally let loose the cheater adjective. Wife did cheat, prior to separation.

Quick-Draw Sun-McDraw got shot in the back.

Lesson: Get more information before drawing the Portrait.

I have eaten my first Crow of the year.

The flesh is tolerable, even raw. the feathers, nib and talons.....not so much.

Krazy remains a Nice Guy victim.



Unless more Truth trickles down his shorts.

I take back any advice to Reconcile.

Do not remarry.

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Krazy finally let loose the cheater adjective. Wife did cheat, prior to separation.



Quick-Draw Sun-McDraw got shot in the back.



Lesson: Get more information before drawing the Portrait.



I have eaten my first Crow of the year.



The flesh is tolerable, even raw. the feathers, nib and talons.....not so much.



Krazy remains a Nice Guy victim.







Unless more Truth trickles down his shorts.



I take back any advice to Reconcile.



Do not remarry.


Im going to draw a line under my part in this conversation.
Your speaking in riddles. As much as I love and enjoy English literature, I'm struggling even with yours.



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So update she left me and went back to that guy. Found out they talked more than I knew and she lied about being somewhere. After she posted along thing about how happy she was to have her family back.
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Interesting.

So, were you abusive? I kept waiting for you to provide more information, but you seem convinced you were the bad guy. I ask because you keep saying this:
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We divorced because I put my wants and needs also my job. Before her and the girls. I was a straight up jerk all the time. Of course we are both at fault she wasn't perfect either. We discussed all this recently. I would chose to go to work over doing family activities together, and when I was home I wanted to be left alone. All things I learned were wrong now and she sees a change in me.
Yet, you said you were doing all of this:
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I want the fairytale wife that cooks and cleans. I did all of the house work before cook clean laundry.

I'm just curious of the entire back story now. I'm curious if you have your hindsight 20/20 glasses on at the highest rose color spectrum.

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No you are right. She even said I'm the only guy that can make her not want to be with that guy even though he cheated on her. Smh idk why
No way, sorry just no. What happens when you get mad? I applaud her honesty, but you should listen to what she told you.

How this red flag doesn't send you running I do not know. She told you this guy still has a place in heart, but you think things have changed. You just found out she cheated on you, is still in love with a cheater and you have fallen for the sweet nothings whispered in your ear.

I do have one question, was she cheating on her ex-boyfriend when you two had your various flings?
I was never abusive. I grew up around that and despise that. I would just do what I wanted worked a lot and would put what I wanted first not caring about my family. She did cheat on me with two guys. A year apart.

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Her friend sent me screen shots of there convo. Then she found out and wasn't mad at all. We even talked about it. She has been staying over a lot.
I'd be suspicious of that.
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You posted in my original post from when my separation started. You told me she was cheating and I defended her. It was called. My wife left me and I think it's due to a medical condition. Her thyroid got taken out. I was mikewmma
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You posted in my original post from when my separation started. You told me she was cheating and I defended her. It was called. My wife left me and I think it's due to a medical condition. Her thyroid got taken out. I was mikewmma
So are you finally done pining for her?
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You posted in my original post from when my separation started. You told me she was cheating and I defended her. It was called. My wife left me and I think it's due to a medical condition. Her thyroid got taken out. I was mikewmma
When the thyroid glands are removed the endocrinologist puts the patient on a thyroid med. It may take a little while to determine the 'just right' dosage for optimal health. I never experienced the desire to cheat or run away due to the condition.
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^^^

Me either.
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You were Plan B because the other guy cheated on her and she needed a back-up. And you'll be Plan B when he cheats on her again. That cycle could go on forever. Remove yourself from it.
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