Re: Torn about possibly reconciling with my STBXH
Begin Again what developmental / learning disorder does your child have?
Have you checked into the possibility that your husband may have ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder)/Aspergers? This could also be another explanation for his shyness and flat aspect. Aspies have incredibly difficult problems with socialization and communication. Many Aspies are brilliantly smart, but many also have co-morbidities such as learning disabilities, ADD, ADHD, Dyslexia and Bi-Polar disorder (BPD). Your husband could have passed these traits on to your son, and if there is any history of learning disabilities in your family then BOOM!
Any attempt at reconciliation should be contingent on your hubby getting tested.
Oh by the way...sleeping with another guy while separated? Not cool.