Should have listened to TAM
I got back together with XH in December, my basement flooded due to a bunch of rain, he was there helping all the time with clean up seemed to have his crap together. Was doing everything I had asked him to work on, so he moved back in end of December of first of January. I continued going to IC, things were going good--we had good communication, he was keeping up his progress. I seriously thought it was for real.
We made it the typical for us 6 months of things going good and then they slowly started to unravel about June. He's not communicating, he is constantly complaining about his job but won't do anything to change it (like look for a new one), not finishing projects that he starts or not starting them at all. Back to blaming the ADHD, says he needs me to help him remember, blah, blah. On his phone with his buddy or watching videos all the time.
Last week, however, I kind of reached my breaking point. He texts me in the morning about how his job is screwing him over really bad, and he's going to think about "turning in his keys and quitting" that afternoon. So all day I worry about what he is going to do, because he has quit jobs before so I know its not just an I'm having a bad day thing. Apparently he said the same thing to his boss on the way out the door. So he doesn't quit, and he doesn't get fired. But I realize that its totally selfish of him to even think that way, it doesn't take "us" into consideration at all. Our present with paying bills, our future.
So here I am again, thinking this is not where I want to be.