Getting to point of reconciliation
My story: Together 6 years, Married 2, 1xchild (14mths old). 3 Months ago husband told me he wasn't happy, didn't love me anymore and didn't want to be with me. He went to counselling but has since stopped & moved out 3 weeks ago. Initially I was positive he was depressed but counsellor ruled that out. I'm still thinking it may be paternal postpartum depression. Out child was born with & is being treated for physical birth defect, we moved cities when she was 8weeks old to where he has no friends etc for support, new job for him which is stressful and causing him to work 12hr+ days (I'd been telling him for months he would hit a wall but had no idea it would be this), he lost his dad when he was a young child & is now questioning who he was etc. This is all part of my reasoning for believing there may be depression issues at play. I have considered there being someone else, he denies this & i'm still unsure. He now seems to be avoiding old friends, has said he is embarrassed but isn't showing any signs of wanting to reconcile.
I understand my best bet may be a 180 however what i'm struggling with is how do I achieve that when I'm struggling to even function each day? We have to communicate due to sharing our daughter & I am finding it far to hard to pretend to be OK.