Re: Annnnd I'm back
GTFO, now, while she is worried about you leaving her.
Yeah, I know. It's the worst suggestion you could see in print. Sure, it will hurt badly. She isn't worth what you will have to put into it. If you are not still separated, you should be. Find a girlfriend during separation that appreciates you. Then, compare what it is like without her, to what it will be like during reconciliation.
Sure there will be hysterical bonding sex with your wife. There will also be a huge amount of great sex with some woman that is new and really wants you.
I truly think those who have stepped out of the marriage need to stay out, as hard as that is for the BS. When there are no children involved, why even put yourself through the internal questioning, constant second guessing, and sexual drop off when she realizes you haven't changed much and she is being trusted again.
When that happens, she can go back to whatever she wants while having you to take care of her needs that an AP who doesn't take responsibility for his relationship with her, can't.
Maybe it's just me. I certainly don't see the value in reconciliation unless she has not had sex outside the marriage, yet. I'm sure you'll get other advice that will be more along the lines of 'how to reconcile'. I just couldn't read this and 'walk away'.
"I'm significant!! Screamed the dust speck." - Bill Watterson
"And this, too, shall pass away."