Re: is all hope lost?
If your wife is HSV+ and her OM is married, you have a moral obligation to tell his wife so that she can be tested and treated if he has passed it on to her. She may not care if he has a side fling or two, but I bet she would care very much to know he is having a fling with an STD+ partner.
To your original question, I think you were her exit affair. Now, this new guy is her exit affair. I believe she truly doesn't want to be with you any longer and that you should start detaching and moving on with your life. If you are also HSV+ , well, so is a decent portion of the female population. You could date women who already have HSV or you could date women who are unknown, disclose, and see if it's a dealbreaker. There are many websites specifically for STD+ people to meet and there are also STD specific singles and support groups out there. I know plenty of women in their mid-20 to mid 30's who are not interested in having kids and looking for a man who also doesn't want kids. Trust me, you can find someone who isn't going to cheat on you...repeatedly...even after you discover it and offer reconciliation.
Since you questioned another poster's street cred, I was a WW and a BW in my first marriage, divorced him to be with my exit affair partner, and have been with him for 16 years, married for 13 of those.
Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
Last edited by MJJEAN; 10-11-2016 at 01:26 PM.