Re: Husband caught cheating, doesn't want to be together now.
I am glad you are separating and not pursuing. Perhaps he is getting a taste for life without you. He wants to be in control and walk away from you, but you are detaching first and that's unsettling. If you are willing to be separate and he understands that, then he has to come to terms with that.
Cheaters, to justify their betrayal, often vilify their spouse and make THEM the problem. Every little thing becomes a big thing and proof that it's the spouses fault for them straying. That's why he was so irritated by everything with you.
Meanwhile the other W is still all fantasy because he only has the good, new, exciting part of the relationship.
Now, he has neither, and that made him angry so he decided to get mad at you both instead of himself.
But with time, with you consistently being you, maybe he has started to see the good he previously had.
I still think you should be your sweet self and continue to make it clear you accept that the marriage may be over. That will make him have to pursue you if he actually wants this to work.
I also think you should still think about making a new life abroad as an option. There are many good men around the world who would love to be with a successful, good woman.
Keep us posted
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