My wife and i have been together for 14 years 8 of those legally married we have 2 boys 6 and 3, am 27 years old, last year february we decided that i would leave the country to go to college once i was finished they would move here this was due to our economical situation since in Cuba things are difficult, we were apart for over a year i went to visit in july for a month and it was great we both changed a lot, older more mature etc. in september i decided i wanted a divorce because she was jealous all the time and a had a lot on my plate so we split up didnt get legally divorced, in november we started sending each other emails talking etc and she asked me that if it was really over so that she could move on, i guessed correctly she was seen someone, i never thought she would get into a new relationship even after i pushed her away stupid thinking on my part, i told her i wanted her back that i made a mistake and i loved her so she made the decision to break the relationship she had to be with me even though i won't be seen her in the next 18 months or so. i love her and she was totally honest with me about what she had that it was always very discreet he never stayed in our home my kids don't know anything nor does her familiy they just know him as her friend, but i don't know if am making the right decision, i don't feel angry or anything like that towards her i think it was mainly my fault that she had this relationship since i pushed her away. We both want to make our marriage work but i don't know if this is the right thing to do. i feel very insecure that she was going to move on if i had said that i did want a divorce, but she warned me before getting serious so i guess she still does love me..