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post #16 of 43 (permalink) Old 01-20-2017, 04:05 PM
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Re: Should I expose the affair?

If you are going to expose, you need to provide proof. Not just your words.

Do you have proof to send the guy?

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I just know I would want to know if it were me. Should I contact the fiance and let him know this, or leave it alone?
Hell friggin yes, make sure he finds out. If necessary, show him the emails and other notes that she has left for him.

The OW does not have custody of her children? I can see why. She is a home breaker, and a horny, loose goose, as well. No morals, this bird.

You are a very good and very Chipper women to take your wayward husband back.

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If you are going to expose, you need to provide proof. Not just your words.

Do you have proof to send the guy?
No you don't. If you have it, great, he's more likely to listen, but you don't NEED to provide proof. He might already suspect anyway. If he chooses to ignore you because the lying wench lies, well, not much you can do about that.
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Ask yourself..."would I want someone to warn me?"

There is your answer.

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No you don't. If you have it, great, he's more likely to listen, but you don't NEED to provide proof. He might already suspect anyway. If he chooses to ignore you because the lying wench lies, well, not much you can do about that.


Maybe then i will just anonymously tell your husband you are cheating and leave you to disprove it. Proof helps. Obviously OP has something to provide.
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Maybe then i will just anonymously tell your husband you are cheating and leave you to disprove it. Proof helps. Obviously OP has something to provide.
Be my guest. Want me to PM you his email address?

Seriously. Why do you feel the need to keep haranguing me about this and other stuff on the board this week? I don't get it
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Be my guest. Want me to PM you his email address?



Seriously. Why do you feel the need to keep haranguing me about this and other stuff on the board this week? I don't get it


Uh, i posted to OP. It was YOU that had to disagree and post back to me.
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Uh, i posted to OP. It was YOU that had to disagree and post back to me.
Are we seeing the same screen? You quoted me, not OP.

Whatever. I'm leaving work and picking up the grandbaby for some one on one time with grammy tonight. Have a fun weekend!!
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Re: Should I expose the affair?

By all means tell the OW's fiancé. He may not believe you but at least he can't say he wasn't warned.

As to your husband, I feel he separated to try her out. Be careful about how much you trust him going forward.
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By all means tell the OW's fiancé. He may not believe you but at least he can't say he wasn't warned.

As to your husband, I feel he separated to try her out. Be careful about how much you trust him going forward.
I think that you're right! I am furthermore in agreement with you that he really wants to take her out for a little "test drive" and to try to break her in real good!


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Are we seeing the same screen? You quoted me, not OP.

Whatever. I'm leaving work and picking up the grandbaby for some one on one time with grammy tonight. Have a fun weekend!!
Blue and I had a similar exchange, months ago, down to the "I wasn't positing at you," comment and being quoted as well. Just let it go
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No no no. You and your H contact the guy and your H ADMITS to sleeping with her.

He needs to do this and feel the shame and pain he has caused you and this guy. It's completely on him.

I would insist it be in person if at all possible

That way

- there is NO doubt for this guy
- H begins to get consequences and see the pain
- fiancé can choose in his heart to make your H the bad guy or assign some blame to his fiancé - it's totally up to him



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I was engaged to a guy for 3 years who spent the whole 3 years cheating on me with his old gf. Everyone knew. Nobody told me. The only reason I found out was he took MY car to take her on a date to the beach and crashed my car. I felt like the biggest fool on the planet. More than that, I was furious that nobody told me because that told me all I needed to know about where they placed me in their list of priorities.
Turnera, with hindsight, have you figured out how he was able to get away with cheating on you for so long? Did he travel a lot? Were there blackout times between you two, say for work reasons in which you expected not to hear from him?

Did he ever mention his ex gf? Presented her as just a friend? Was she a co-worker of his? (that's how my exBIL got away with his 6 year affair while married to my sister)

I think a reminder of all those little hints that we choose to ignore but should have followed up may help us all for the next time.
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Re: Should I expose the affair?

Your husband is quite the spin doctor, isn't he?

He's managed to paint himself just about as innocent as he can in this whole thing.

Nicely played.

Of course you should tell the fiance. But don't tell your husband before you do it because I can pretty much guarantee you he'll run RIGHT to the OW and warn her. You can BANK on that.
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