Should I expose the affair?
My husband started seeing a coworker three weeks into our separation. My husband has admitted that they flirted leading up to our separation and that as soon as he announced his separation that she began to say she wanted to pursue a relationship with him. I will say upfront that my H has gone through all his texts with me so I've seen the exchanges and believe that they back up his story.
We are now reconciling, we are on session 10 of marriage counseling and he's switched jobs. They are completely NC and he broke it off with her prior to us getting back together. (they dated for about 6 weeks). Contacted him a few times after the break up, going as far as to leave letters on his car and on his desk (they were very much in the tone of "you broke my heart" "you are heartless" "you're a liar"). He has been very transparent with me, and he is taking all the steps the MC has suggested.
She has now backed off, however there's one thing that is bothering me. This woman has a fiance. She has 3 kids (her ex-husband has custody) and this guy does everything for them. He seems like a genuinely good guy. My husband says he feels like a huge a-hole because the (2) times they slept together, the first time was in the bed she shared with her fiance, and the second time was at the company Christmas party. The story is that H was drunk and she left her fiance in their hotel room and said she was going to hang out with a girl from the office when, in fact, she was coming to my H's room. That night H ended up kicking her out of the room because he was drunk, couldn't perform and she got mad about it.
Anyway, there's all the sordid details. Although I am working through my hurt and the fact that my H was with another woman, at least I know we were split up at the time. She was actively with her fiance, and this guy has no clue who he is marrying. I do NOT want revenge on her, although she has tried to start drama in my life. I just know I would want to know if it were me. Should I contact the fiance and let him know this, or leave it alone?