Reconciling with my ex-wife, after she married and divorced
I don't normally go to anonymous people on the internet who could be anyone from a 12-year-old boy to a hobbit that lives under a bridge, but here I am.
In 2007 my wife left me for another man. It took me a long time to realize and accept it, but we both made mistakes. My ex-wife left before getting physical with that man, so there was no physical cheating. I have come to accept that I pushed my ex-wife away. I didn't listen to her, refused to spend time with her unless it was on my terms, didn't help her enough with our children, didn't romance her - at all. She tried to tell me so many times that things needed to change and I didn't listen. We had been married for 3 years at the time, and we were 25 and 27. In hindsight, we were too young and my ex-wife agrees.
My ex-wife met a man at work and fell for him. He was what pushed her to leave me. 2 months after our divorce was finalized, a year after she left, they married (2008).
This man is the total opposite of me. He's taller, a gym buff/ripped, more successful, more active/adventurous. My ex-wife and I still have each other on Facebook and over the years I've watched what she's posted with him. When we were married we had a small wedding and spent around $6000. When they married they had a huge extravagant wedding with a few hundred people. The base price for their venue was 60 grand, I looked it up. Never in a million years did she want that when we were together. She posted pictures of them rock climbing, marathons, skywalks, travelling to more exotic places. Things she never showed an interest in while we were together. After she had our kids she didn't want to do anything other than parent.
It makes me wonder, is that the real her? Who did she show her true self to, me or him. They separated Jan. 2016 and are now divorced. My ex-wife caught him having a full blown affair with someone half his age.
Over the last year my ex-wife and I have been getting closer again. We have been spending more time together as a family and alone. We haven't told our kids anything. Two weeks ago we had sex and she has been a bit clingy since then. I have had relationships since our divorce, but nothing that was good enough to commit to. I want to make an attempt to reconcile with my ex-wife, and she seems to want to as well.
My ex-wife and I have 13 year old and 12 year old. She has a 6 year old, 4 year old and 2 year old with her more recent ex-husband.
Does reconciliation after divorce ever work out? Am I just being a moron?