01-09-2012, 07:02 AM
Join Date: Jan 2012
| | Re: Help in decision to try again....
Originally Posted by sandy2499
My husband and I have been separated for 4 years. I was the one to move out...long story but bottom line is I felt so disrespected by him and then by him AND my son. Like I was something to put up with to get through the day, an obstacle to deal with. He has been asking for a few years to try again with our marriage..(26 years) . At first I thought no way, but, I don't know anymore...no one knows me like him, and I do get lonley..though been asked out enough times and have dated here and there...the men are all so serious and want a committment way too fast! I feel loss of family (his too) more than anything and getting tired of my little apartment by myself. He has acknowledged mistakes, as have I...advice please??? I can't keep going on like this..living in limbo. I know he loves me, I don't know if I love him the same way.
4 years wow, you guys are patient. I don't know if I could be in limbo that long. Sounds like you need to see an IC and find out why you can't let go of past resentments. If you cannot or refuse to you should tell your husband and well let him go to be happy. The length of time of your seperation should kind of tell you. Familiarity and lonliness should not be your key factors to reconciling. Read some of Gary Smalleys books or Judy Bodners, When Love Dies.