And why is it that your wife suddenly wants a divorce when you thought things were going well. Surely you aren't naive enough to believe a woman leaves you over griping about stuff laying around and not visiting her parents enough?
There is a reason your wife has left you. You need to find the truth, but you're fearful. If you have been no contact, that's great. Detach and move on. The reason for all this doesn't matter. She's not coming back unless it's for a place to live because she. Any support herself.
You really should concentrate on detaching and moving on. Keep up the no contact and you'll be fine. Never break it. You will eventually be able to let her go and you'll stop hurting.
I wish you luck.
Hi, thanks for the reply, for sure, I know that it's not because of stuff laying around etc. My gut feeling still keeps telling me she wasn't ready for the married life or she was so stressed that it effected her mental behavior etc. and for her to feel better, she put all the blame on me.
Today I met by coincidence one of our friends, she told me that another friend and herself tried to change her decision, and both pointed out where my wife (or ex) was wrong, then she told them that she wasn't happy that they are pointing out what they think she did wrong. She was still stubborn and decisive about her decision. she told the same reason she left to everyone, but people who spoke to her, all of them think that looks like she wasn't ready for the married life, apart from her parents, as they still baby her and cannot accept that her daughter is the wrong one in this situation, they still keep saying that all that happened is my fault (of course I had issues myself as well, I'm human and not perfect for sure), but they keep saying that it's all my fault.
Today she went to our place and took more stuff, fortunately wasn't there at the time.
It is a bit difficult at first without her, as she left, and I never saw her again, like she never existed before. All those years together we used to meet almost everyday, and then she like vanished and never existed.
No texting from her end, no nothing, I also stopped all the contact myself as well, would like to move on as fast and possible.
It's true, I need to find the truth, but she isn't even communicating, like I did something very wrong to her. Maybe she is angry because it didn't work between us and she still thinks it's all my fault. Don't know. I thought several times that she has another affair, but she keeps hanging out with the same female friend every time, and checked her chats a lot of times before she left, and even before all this happened. Even the day she left, she left her laptop at home and was so curious that I checked her chats, but found nothing.
She should have communicated and worked something out for sure. Today I spoke to the priest that made our ceremony, he gave me some tips, maybe try to make her a bit jealous, so she starts to question if she took the wrong decision. Next week I am also attending another session with a different counselor / mediator to check for another opinion and maybe she can also give me some tips on how to cope better etc.