I have made several posts on other sections on here. Most answers came back to divorce her, which I have every right to and cant disagree. However, I do want to exhaust every opportunity. Heres a brief version:
My wife and I are 30 years old. Together for 7 and married for 1.5. We began having problems about midway through our relationship, just general communication issues, lack of affection, etc (Mostly on my end). We were always madly in love though, so I thought. In September 2016 she began leaving for weekends at a time and wanted space. Came home in October 2016 and she was gone, I mean everything except bed, couch, tv, and some cups and silverware. Received an email later that night that she wants to get my attention, that she wants me to realize her worth. She would never tell me where she lives so I found that strange. She began acting strange. We seen each other maybe once a week. Fast forward March 2017, find out she moved in with a guy who always liked her. They have been together since she left. Shes mad and says her affair is my fault. We still talk everyday and she says she loves me, not in love deal. She does not know if she wants to be with me anymore. She cant choose between me and him. I, her husband, am now the side piece. I really want to make this work but have lost hope and self respect. Anyone on here gone through this and came out with a happy ending? And how did you do it?
I know this looks grim, not expecting a good outcome.
Where is your PRIDE
? I'm actually embarrassed FOR you.
Jesus, the woman moves OUT on you while you're not home, like a sneaky common thief. Then she plays head games with you about 'recognizing her worth' after she's proven how low down the food chain she already IS. You engage in her bullcrap even though you've already been completely disrespected
by her low-rent moving out without your knowledge. I'm willing to bet you've continually begged her to love you and promised her the moon and swore you'd be 'better' if she'd only come home and blah blah blah since the day she pulled this sleazy move.
And she's continued jerking your chain while you gratefully accept any pathetic attention you get from her.
Now you find out she's even LOWER down the food chain than she'd originally appeared - and had actually moved in with the creep she'd been spending weekends with while still married to you.
Does you pride FINALLY
make an appearance and you dump her when you learn this heinous new information?
Nope. You just ask for ways to improve the degrading and humiliating "Pick Me" dance you've been feverishly dancing for FAR too long.
Im being naive and looking for a secret trick to make it work, just acting desperate. We all know where desperation leads.
I couldn't have said it better myself.
Stop disrespecting yourself. Ugh.