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post #16 of 27 (permalink) Old 05-17-2017, 01:05 PM
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Re: My wife wants to reconcile after AP doesn't want her

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Jan/2007 - We met, wife was and remained emotionally involved with her ex
Nov 2011-May 2012 - I was having an affair
May 2012 - My wife had PA with gym rat
Sept 2013-Dec 2013 - My wife had a PA with her ex

Mar 2014 - We married
Feb-Aug 2015 - I had casual sex with 8 women
Sep-Dec 2015 - My wife had PA with her ex
June-Aug 2016 - My wife had a PA with a gym rat
Sep 2016-April 2017 - My wife was in a PA with her ex
Honestly you seem well suited.

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The protocol is you laugh in her face and then block her number.
Pretty much.

Tell her to stay gone, OP; take her back and it won't be long before she's banging the next guy, or running back to this douchenozzle, doing "twofers" at the local truck stop, or whatever.

ETA: Having read @sokillme's last post, I'd probably give her similar advice.

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Can the two of you agree to love, honor and... Oh shoot, who am I kidding.

Just go your separate ways.
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A week ago I had a string hanging out on my short shorts.

Now it is 500 ft long. Someone is pulling it.
Don't you own a freaking pair of scissors for crying out loud. Can some hand this poor man about to be naked from the waist down a pair of scissors.

...and please STOP pulling the damn String!



Now, as to OP,

Please stop this sham. You two had no business getting married ever. You are both obviously not meant for marriage. Well at least not how the institution of marriage is supposed to be that is. Don't have kids either. It would be in everyone's best interest, if you two don't procreate. Talk about being a good example of what NOT to do in a marriage.

Sorry if this sounds rude OP, but you and your wife don't fit the bill of upstanding married partners, so the opposite is much more accurate. Live your lives more accurately by being single and not bringing innocents into this world. Jmnsho of course.

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The protocol is you laugh in her face and then block her number.
I don't think he has the right to laugh in her face. He slept with eight women during a six-month period beginning on year after marriage.
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Re: My wife wants to reconcile after AP doesn't want her

I actually am going to swim against the TAM current today.

You should reconcile. Go to counseling. You deserve each other, and any woman you would meet in the future and marry certainly doesn't deserve the treatment you're going to give her.

Same goes for your wife.

Do you hear the people sing / Lost in the valley of the night?
It is the music of a people / Who are climbing to the light.
For the wretched of the earth / There is a flame that never dies.
Even the darkest night will end / And the sun will rise...
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post #22 of 27 (permalink) Old 05-17-2017, 03:38 PM
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Open your marriage, if that's what you want to call it, then stop kicking each other out. Set some mutual boundaries and such. We have people here who can point you to the correct open marriage websites. Plus, I've read there are therapists who deal with Poly marriages and marriage counseling.
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Neither of you are mature enough or have enough moral values to be married. Your marriage was a mess of cheating, lies and deception. Unless you have both grown up and have decided that faithfulness is vital for a marriage I don't see the point of trying again.

BTW you need to be honest with her about the large number of women you had sex with as well.
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I don't think he has the right to laugh in her face. He slept with eight women during a six-month period beginning on year after marriage.
Which is far more than she has cheated with.
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Wow hope you both have been tested, could have caught something penicillin can't cure.
Ridicules the about of cheating between you two, both of you need to move on.




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Can the two of you agree to love, honor and... Oh shoot, who am I kidding.

Just go your separate ways.
NO! Then 2 other poor souls who WANT TO honor and so one will end up getting cheated on. As long as they stay together they can only cheat on each other. How many times to we say why can't cheaters wind up with each other. Here it happened and you guys want them to end it and possibly find two faithful people???!!

Seriously OP just open up your marriage already, you both are obviously incapable of monogamy. Enjoy what you have.
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