I've posted here before about my SO wanting a divorce.
I moved out to an apartment 2 months ago. I filed for divorce under adultery and court was suppose to be last week. My SO requested a continuance to "try and see if we could fix things".
He kept talking about money and how he pays X amount by himself compared to if I was there and everything was split. I kept saying we aren't working things out just because it's convenient for him to have me move back in.
Well, I also have some debt and my husband wasn't aware of how severe. I have a shopping problem.
Well, now he is using that as an excuse for me to move back with him and him take care if all our finances. He is really good at numbers money etc.
But what hurts the most is this statement from him " I told you I'm not sure if I can forgive you. But at least I fix other things while I see if I can.
I don't know if I do or don't right now. But I do know this is a huge issue that needs to be resolved."
What he means by forgiveness is because I was fighting for full custody of our daughter and a mistake I made in 2013 that he thinks I cheated. Which I didn't. He has issues forgiving people.
But anyway, is it a smart idea to move back in het our financial stuff situated and hope that we can work through all other aspects of our marriage. It wasn't so bad before his affair, we did have some communication issues obviously about money. But we got along and things were good..
I guess I'm confused and don't want to be used because it's a convenience...
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I moved out to an apartment 2 months ago. I filed for divorce under adultery and court was suppose to be last week. My SO requested a continuance to "try and see if we could fix things".
He kept talking about money and how he pays X amount by himself compared to if I was there and everything was split. I kept saying we aren't working things out just because it's convenient for him to have me move back in.
Well, I also have some debt and my husband wasn't aware of how severe. I have a shopping problem.
Well, now he is using that as an excuse for me to move back with him and him take care if all our finances. He is really good at numbers money etc.
But what hurts the most is this statement from him " I told you I'm not sure if I can forgive you. But at least I fix other things while I see if I can.
I don't know if I do or don't right now. But I do know this is a huge issue that needs to be resolved."
What he means by forgiveness is because I was fighting for full custody of our daughter and a mistake I made in 2013 that he thinks I cheated. Which I didn't. He has issues forgiving people.
But anyway, is it a smart idea to move back in het our financial stuff situated and hope that we can work through all other aspects of our marriage. It wasn't so bad before his affair, we did have some communication issues obviously about money. But we got along and things were good..
I guess I'm confused and don't want to be used because it's a convenience...
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