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post #1 of 142 (permalink) Old 02-26-2012, 11:34 AM Thread Starter
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She is moving back home....

Boy was I surprised at MC Friday night when she announced that she will be moving back home next week.

There are mixed emotions, uncertainty, concern of motivations, but the most important thought is the opportunity to make our marriage work.

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Re: She is moving back home....

What made her decide to do that?

'I'd rather live by a dream, than live by a lie.
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So, she decided, but is it what you want? Why should she get to call all the shots?

Just think about it very hard and figure out why she wants this.

I was thrilled when Hubs was moving home, but it was what I wanted all along and never stopped loving him.

You mentioned you didn't love her anymore, etc...so make sure this is what you want. Just because SHE wants to, doesn't mean you need to let her do it just yet.


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What made her decide to do that?
The million dollar question which the MC will explore. I believe a series of reasons, including love. We have shared some close moments in recent visits. I believe she is showing signs of waking from the MLC fog a bit.

It will be a rough road ahead with all the complications of other relationships, which we have already acknowledged.

Wish us well with positive thoughts.
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So, she decided, but is it what you want? Why should she get to call all the shots?

Just think about it very hard and figure out why she wants this.

I was thrilled when Hubs was moving home, but it was what I wanted all along and never stopped loving him.

You mentioned you didn't love her anymore, etc...so make sure this is what you want. Just because SHE wants to, doesn't mean you need to let her do it just yet.
It is what I want, if only to give us a chance to save the marriage. Being apart would never allow us to repair it completely. I do love her, the old her which I believe is still inside and has peaked out and shown up from time to time through this period. I believe everytime the one I loved shows up, it is that fog clearing a bit.

Trust me when I say I am not 100% sure we can save the marriage, but I believe this is a step in the right direction.
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Re: She is moving back home....

I think.... waiting and watching for "the old her" is fruitless. I've been on an MLC site/forum for years....and one piece of advice is always to not expect to ever see that person again and if you are lucky you will see glimpses of who she used to be.

And I'm not saying it can't work. It certainly can, and I hope it does. I'm saying, after all you both have been thru, you will have different feelings, self-awareness, experiences, visions, goals, ideals even.... know what i mean? You will have to learn who THIS person is, the one who you once loved, you have to find out if she is someone who you will love now and into the future.

Hope for the best. Good luck!
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I wish you well in your R.
Remind me please of how long you have been apart.
I am realy pleased for you and sending positive vibes you way
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I wish you well in your R.
Remind me please of how long you have been apart.
I am realty pleased for you and sending positive vibes you way
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I love to hear about the positive stuff. I wish you much luck in R. I can't help to feel a little jealous but very happy for you.
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It is what I want, if only to give us a chance to save the marriage. Being apart would never allow us to repair it completely. I do love her, the old her which I believe is still inside and has peaked out and shown up from time to time through this period. I believe everytime the one I loved shows up, it is that fog clearing a bit.

Trust me when I say I am not 100% sure we can save the marriage, but I believe this is a step in the right direction.
I have lots of positive thoughts going your way... I hope I can say mine will some day move home.
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Good luck, but like I told another poster going through the same thing, you should wear a cup.

I have a bad feeling she's going to try to give you a shot to the nads.

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best of luck man, I hope it goes well with you and the wife. Prayers go out to you.
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This is me,
Do you have a thread that discussed what happened w/ you and your W, besides a MLC?
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4 months apart. Thank you for the positive thoughts. I do appreciate it.
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This is me,
Do you have a thread that discussed what happened w/ you and your W, besides a MLC?
Been on this site for almost a year now and started several threads. You can search them by clicking on my name and posts started by me. Think they are sorted by date.
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I have lots of positive thoughts going your way... I hope I can say mine will some day move home.
Thank you and you got it Mama. We all need more positives and positive comments should really be made in this category.
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