ReconciliationThis forum is for those focused on reconciliation and success stories from people who have been through separation and reconciled successfully.
This is so good to hear Daisy. Sounds like he has come to his senses. I am glad you are working on yourself as well as enjoying a new type of relationship. That will keep you both on an even keel.
Hi everyone
I think im going to check out of TAM for a little while. Things are going good at home and im trying to focus on all the positives at the moment and sometimes coming on here really causes me to trigger and doubt myself. Reading the CWI forum is hard and its difficult to come on here and just read the positive stuff.
I hope this doesnt make me sound selfish as i really do want to help others who are going through what i have been experiencing over the last year, and i will come back, but i just need some time to focus on H and me and just make sure we are really giving out marriage the best chance we can.
So i'm not deserting you all, i wouldn't do that, you've all been amazing, but im just gonna check out for a couple of weeks.
Please keep me in your prayers, as i will you
much love
DG
XX
PS things are continuing to go well for us. Just a few insecurities on my part, but well thats to be expected isnt it! x
Hi everyone
I think im going to check out of TAM for a little while. Things are going good at home and im trying to focus on all the positives at the moment and sometimes coming on here really causes me to trigger and doubt myself. Reading the CWI forum is hard and its difficult to come on here and just read the positive stuff.
I hope this doesnt make me sound selfish as i really do want to help others who are going through what i have been experiencing over the last year, and i will come back, but i just need some time to focus on H and me and just make sure we are really giving out marriage the best chance we can.
So i'm not deserting you all, i wouldn't do that, you've all been amazing, but im just gonna check out for a couple of weeks.
Please keep me in your prayers, as i will you
much love
DG
XX
PS things are continuing to go well for us. Just a few insecurities on my part, but well thats to be expected isnt it! x
You take care. You've already been an inspiration. Best and prayers to you. Posted via Mobile Device
Hi everyone
I think im going to check out of TAM for a little while. Things are going good at home and im trying to focus on all the positives at the moment and sometimes coming on here really causes me to trigger and doubt myself. Reading the CWI forum is hard and its difficult to come on here and just read the positive stuff.
I hope this doesnt make me sound selfish as i really do want to help others who are going through what i have been experiencing over the last year, and i will come back, but i just need some time to focus on H and me and just make sure we are really giving out marriage the best chance we can.
So i'm not deserting you all, i wouldn't do that, you've all been amazing, but im just gonna check out for a couple of weeks.
Please keep me in your prayers, as i will you
much love
DG
XX
PS things are continuing to go well for us. Just a few insecurities on my part, but well thats to be expected isnt it! x
Smart move. I understand how reading at this site can trigger negatives sometimes. As they advise in the airline safety drill, put your mask on first. Not selfish at all! All the best!!!!!!!
Hi everyone,
Thought id check in and give a quick update.
Things are still going well and no major hicups to report.
Had a tough day on Friday. It was a year since i got the ilybnilwy speech and i found myself going over and over things in my head. Was very emotional all day. Had a lot of things i wanted to ask H about the A, things that have been on my mind but felt too emotional to do it, so i wrote him a really long letter. I felt better after writing it so just put it away for another day. H was very supportive when he came home from W, although i felt like i wanted to distance myself a bit, maybe just to protect myself. I went to my friends house for the evening and when i got home there were candles and a nice warm bath waiting for me and lots of cuddles before bed. I shed a few tears and we talked a bit and fell asleep. Got up Saturday morning and felt much better, so went on to have a good weekend.
So what else? We are spending lots of time together and going on dates. H was due to change his motorbike 2 weekd ago, he was going to upgrade to a bigger sports bike, but instead changed it to a more suitable bike for us both to enjoy so that was great. Been out a few times (weather permitting) and really enjoyed.
I struggle with the mind movies quite a bit but am trying to deal with them the best i can and when questions about the A come into my head i try an ask myself what i will benefit from knowing the answer. If i decide the truth will hurt me more then i sleep on it and usually by the next day it has gone out of my head. Is this rug sweeping? I dont think so, just dont want to keep briing the A up all the time and you know, some of the questions, i really dont want the answers to, not yet anywyay.
Been having a few bouts of anger! One of the stages which i have not really been experiencing. Some of the anger is towards H but most of it is towards the OW. I do try not to think about her though but i really do feel so angry towards her at times and wonder what kind of woman could do what she did! Blah!! Shes not worth the effort.
So thats about it really. Hope you are all ok,
Take Care
DG
X
You and H are an inspiration, DG! I was so happy to see how he treated you after you got home from your friends' house. I can understand how you want to protect yourself, but you seem to be doing the right things by thinking on things, writing things out, and not just acting impulsively. Good for you!
And as I'm sure you know, anger is totally normal. Don't try to ignore it. It's real and you deserve to experience it and let it go, both in a healthy way.
Keep us updated! ((hugs))
It is very refreshing to hear how you are tracking your emotions, which all are very normal with what you have gone through. I wish I could take away the pain for you, but understand it is a process that does make us stronger. I hate saying that, but it is true.
You are an inspiration and so happy you came back to update us and share.
One question I have is are you working with a counselor for yourself to work your way through this?
It is very refreshing to hear how you are tracking your emotions, which all are very normal with what you have gone through. I wish I could take away the pain for you, but understand it is a process that does make us stronger. I hate saying that, but it is true.
You are an inspiration and so happy you came back to update us and share.
One question I have is are you working with a counselor for yourself to work your way through this?
I wish you all the best!!!!
Thanks both for your continued support ^^^^^^^^^^^^
Yes I have been in IC for about 6 months. Got my final apt in 2 weeks. I have been quite lucky as my IC had been paid for by my occupational health department in work. I had a lot of time of work last year because of all the stress and anxiety and emotional turmoil I was experiencing and work were so supportive, they've been great. My IC has been really good. Really helped me work through a lot of issues! Posted via Mobile Device
Good for you!! As hard as this must be on you, you sound very aware and healthly about how you are dealing with it. I am glad you have professional help.
Hi Daisy I am so happy for you. Your husband sounds like a good man. I hope he understands that you have been living with this for a year and R is a process. I think he does. I can tell that he loves you very much
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