ReconciliationThis forum is for those focused on reconciliation and success stories from people who have been through separation and reconciled successfully.
So my wife and I separated for about 3 months. After I've been nice to her and let her do everything she wanted. I also beg her to come home sometimes. I thought for sure she would leave me for good. I told her I wanted a family (with or without her). I told her about my future of what I wanted. I do wanted her back, but I sometimes want her to feel guilty because of what she did (cheated). I showed her nothing but love and care. I thought, "What the hell, this is the last time I get to be a good husband to her."
Well, she came back. Not only that, she wanted to have a baby right away. That was 2 weeks ago. I'm still in this processing mode. I can't seem to think straight. I want her back, but I don't know how to trust her. She wants a baby now, and I also want a family. She's acting like nothing happened. She came back full force. I can see that if she's pregnant, nobody would want her. But I still don't know how to trust her.
What should I do?
About transparency thing for cheating spouse. She doesn't seem to care for me to check her email, phone, etc. But she's still the same person, she won't let me ask a lot of questions. She will tell me things when she wanted, but she does tell me a lot of things. Too much information really. Hurt like hell.
I wanted her back really bad. She is now back. I don't want her to leave again.
She said part of the reason she left is because I married her for 5 years and I still don't have a baby with her. She wanted one since the first day she married me. She thinks I married her, but still being boyfriend and girlfriend, that's why she wanted to find someone to start a family with. Is this a good reason for cheating?
Something doesn't make any sense to me here. Why would a W cheat on her H because of a difference in opinion about starting a family? I would definitely be concerned about her being pregnany now by another man. That's why the rush???
I'd be very careful, and I totally agree with "that girl" about waiting until your relationship is stable.
She's not pregnant. She just have her period last week and just ended yesterday. That's why today, I'm kind of worried. I afraid to have a kid with her. She's about to ovulate soon.
I'm 26 and she's 30.
Do you think it has to do with Mid Life Crisis? She's 30 and in 5 years the rate of birth defect will climb like crazy.
You should discuss this with a counselor. It sounds like you are both on the same page for what you want, but it is very understandable about the lack of trust. Faith alone will take awhile.
I believe the MLC are a big part of irrational behaviors and cheating.
Counseling make sense to me. She should understand.
You should discuss this with a counselor. It sounds like you are both on the same page for what you want, but it is very understandable about the lack of trust. Faith alone will take awhile.
I believe the MLC are a big part of irrational behaviors and cheating.
Counseling make sense to me. She should understand.
I scheduled for counseling, but it doesn't start until 2 weeks from now. What do I do in between?
Every time I tell to her to wait because trust isn't there yet. She would say that I didn't change, I'm still the same person I was before she left.
Because I'm afraid if I don't, then she'll leave me.
So what happens if you have a child, she continues to cheat and ends up leaving you anyways? Won't you grow to resent that child that you never really wanted to begin with??
Please don't do this to an innocent child. Don't. I see it too often with parents who have too many kids they can't support financially or emotionally. Stop the cycle. Don't have a kid out of fear.
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