4311

Has anyone here gone through a divorce from their spouse then remarried them some time later? Please share your story (reason for the divorce, length of the divorce, the reconciliation process, how it was triggered, share it all!) Thank you

Emma1981

Not me but my step-brother ... he divorced and remarried his ex. Theeeen they divorced again after she drained him financially and began seeing her boss. She left the state after their second divorce thank goodness.

4311

Thanks for sharing. Looking for some positive stories as well but don't want to leave out the realities either. Anyone else?

rome2012

Divorced....reconciled right away....had oopsie reconciliation baby and still divorced and now he has a girlfriend

Wish I would have a positive story to this too...but no

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Nsweet

When I got my WW's papers notarized I met a guy working at private post office who recognized my the court. He was a little short bald and homely guy with a sweet look in his eyes. He said about 18 years ago he and his ex wife divorced there. I started asking him about and when he was about to close he told me how he came from Russia (I think) and met his wife here.

She left him for an affair and married the OM after divorce. After a few years she got back in contact with him and they started talking as friends for about a year or two. I asked him about the OM and what he was like, if he was dangerous and exciting, and he told me throughout their marriage the OM used to beat her daily to the point where he broke bones. She divorced that guy after 7 years and no children and started dating her ex husband again.

They remarried about 12 years ago. I asked him if it was worth it, worth keeping up hope, and he said it was. He told me it was the best decision he ever made. That their relationship was better this time.

Nsweet

So it is possible and I can tell a few more stories, but I've found with each one there is a common challenge. You have to let your spouse go for a few years and work on forgiving them and letting go of your anger. You can't change the past, but you can accept that arguing over what you want not being what your spouse wants only causes grief. And you need this time away from them to grieve alone and without being constantly tested by them.

Later on when you decide you want to get back in touch, keep in mind you're completely starting over and accept that your spouse has had a meaningful relationship with other people whether they be an AP or a new lover. So you must work hard to not show jealousy and never put that person down even if she does. No matter what is going on in their new life know that you two have a lot of history together and many firsts.

While your spouses identity may have changed a little they will still remember you in a good or bad light. It's up to you to decide if you want to reconcile as friends first and move slowly or completely let them go. If you see reconciliation as worth while then don't let anyone tell you other wise. Just know that you can't put your love life on hold to save more room for them.

If things don't work out now, continue to enjoy and live your life as you please, but don't completely write them out of your life for good. Exes have a way of showing up in the strangest places, often when you don't want them anymore. It's up to you to treat them as descent as you would like to be treated and let go of the past hurt. You can discuss those feelings later at a proper time but don't attack them for no reason. People make mistakes and sometime realize it was better on the other side of the fence all along.

I saw a report on the news a while ago about a couple in their late seventies that remarried 50 years after their divorce, after a few marriages, children, and grandchildren. They shared stories about their grand children and told FOX they're rekindled relationship felt like it meant to be.

havana20

wow.....there is hope

stillinlovewithhim

Try this link. Loads of divorced couples who have found their way back to each other. Check out the posts at the bottom of the article.

Would You Remarry Your Ex-Spouse? - FamilyLobby.com

noelle

Restored Marriages - Rejoice Marriage Ministries Stop Divorce Christian Bookstore Helping the Hurting Marriage - This has testimonies of restored marriages.
Praise Reports - Rejoice Marriage Ministries Stop Divorce Christian Bookstore Helping the Hurting Marriage - This also has restored marriages as well as small victories.

Both links are SO uplifting. I turn to them whenever I am feeling put out.

4311

Wow, thanks so much. So far I've taken a lot from your stories. Especially from Nsweet. Let's keep the real life stories coming, they are helping a lot of people.

4311

No other stories?

Racer

I've notice this particular forum doesn't get a lot of viewers...

36Separated

My WAF has also started divorce, I don't want it - thus I'm on this thread... am I clinging to hope, or can this really happen? What are the odds of sorting a marraige during a divorce. My solicitor has told me she has clients that have done it. I also have a cousin that remarried his ex wife and have been happy since.

36Separated

No more good news stories?

4311

36Separated - you note that your cousin remarried his ex. Share some more info on this story - that's what the forum is for! How long were they together, reason they divorced, how long before they remarried, other relationships in between...