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I'm making a real effort there... she knows I am. We're not out of the woods but we are walking out together
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To be perfectly honest I have never understood why some women are just so against porn? It is fantasy. There is nothing better than having a couple bottles of wine and watching porn together. As long as it doesn't become an addiction.

In my opinion it is harmless fun. As long as the 'actors'' are consenting adults then no harm is done? I haven't got a problem with it. And if my husband wants to watch porn on his own then great.

Saying that, this is coming from someone that I have just been tramuatised by my recent husband's affair .. but putting that aside no probs with me.
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To be perfectly honest I have never understood why some women are just so against porn? It is fantasy. There is nothing better than having a couple bottles of wine and watching porn together. As long as it doesn't become an addiction.

In my opinion it is harmless fun. As long as the 'actors'' are consenting adults then no harm is done? I haven't got a problem with it. And if my husband wants to watch porn on his own then great.

Saying that, this is coming from someone that I have just been tramuatised by my recent husband's affair .. but putting that aside no probs with me.
Well, I do have an addiction.
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To be perfectly honest I have never understood why some women are just so against porn? It is fantasy. There is nothing better than having a couple bottles of wine and watching porn together. As long as it doesn't become an addiction.

In my opinion it is harmless fun. As long as the 'actors'' are consenting adults then no harm is done? I haven't got a problem with it. And if my husband wants to watch porn on his own then great.

Saying that, this is coming from someone that I have just been tramuatised by my recent husband's affair .. but putting that aside no probs with me.
His affair and porn could be linked. Its common.
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Right now I feel that we are better than we have been since before the kids were born. Perhaps the best since we've been married. I don't want to blow this, neither does she. Counseling is continuing, we are both making real efforts to do this right!
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Had a small hiccup over the weekend... seemed like for a few moments we were back to where we were 6 months ago, but it was in pieces over the whole weekend. It concerned me a bit, but I don't think it necessarily has to be a preview of things to come. We are both making efforts to make this a good marriage, but we are both WORKING on it, but we are not comepletely changed people - we are CHANGING people.
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So how was Thanksgiving guy?

Sounds like you guys are doing some real work to this thing. I hope things are going well. Please let us know how the holiday went.

Keep up the work. And don't forget to keep it up after things are much better. That's where we fail at continuing our change. We think "ahh everything's fine now" and then don't worry so much, THEEENNNN we're back into the hot seat again.

"It's not about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can GET HIT and keep moving forward"
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So how was Thanksgiving guy?

Sounds like you guys are doing some real work to this thing. I hope things are going well. Please let us know how the holiday went.

Keep up the work. And don't forget to keep it up after things are much better. That's where we fail at continuing our change. We think "ahh everything's fine now" and then don't worry so much, THEEENNNN we're back into the hot seat again.
Thanksgiving was ok. Tension was there between her siblings and I.
Temptation is there to relax and just cruise. I know that I can't do that.
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New development... wife is pregnant!

It's been a year since the miscarriage. She was safe to get pregnant 6 months ago.

I'm happy but a little concerned about the timing and finances.
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Her being pregnant is probably not a good thing given the serious issues you both have with the relationship.

Having a child only exacerbates existing problems with the greater responsibility and financial burden, it doesn't erase them.

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I read your story - congrats on the pregnancy. Your story gives me a little hope. I've been out of the house for 30 days and starting the work on myself thing after begging her didnt work.
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Not a lot of news. We are still doing well, MC has been put on hold due to school issues - there is no time for us to go now, but I am still going to IC. We will pick up again in 2 months. Pregnancy is going well. She's got morning sickness that lasts from 5am to 4:59am, so I am picking up most of the slack on housework. We're both full time at school and full time at work. It limits how much time we spend together but we are making the most of it. All in all we are headed in the right direction
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The pregnancy hormones are working overtime, but she is not taking things out on me like she had before. She's making real efforts to be a better wife. Because she has all day sickness, the romance life is not very regular, but it's not on hold.
Arguments are waaayy down. Nice guy syndrome is fading.
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Very glad I read this whole thread.
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post #105 of 1077 (permalink) Old 04-18-2013, 06:53 AM Thread Starter
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Maybe I was wrong about the Nice Guy syndrome...
I have fallen into the old rut of doing everything for her. Starting to feel like she is taking advantage of it and taking me for granted. 95% of what she asks for, I do. It's the opposite for me. Time to put on the brakes and let her do some things for herself. I gotta be happy to.
She is not being rude or taking things out on me like before. We don't fight often, but when we do, it's about having my needs and wants addressed. Time to read NMMNG again...
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