Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Where I lay my head
Isn't the wait time for a D in Ohio a year? Use this time to improve you and be a great dad.
I'm sure she knows how you stand about D, if it's done, we're through. Maybe you said that at
beginning of separation. Maybe she believed it then, I doubt she does now. Filing for D
makes it "real." No more talking, just walking. If you want the M to work and she doesn't... is that what you
want? Good God that is soul destroying. I've had four major loves in my life and have spoken on
them here many times.... every single time I "officially" walked away, who began to chase who?
I made it "real" and then I had the choice of returning or walking away. The first two, yes they were
HS and college sweethearts, I returned and regretted it years later. Yeah we were kids but love, is love.
The XW in 2013, turned her away, never regretted it. Same with UG in 2014. Did it hurt, oh God yes.
But I knew I made the right decision. Funny the 1st love (1988-90) and XW still make sporadic
attempts to re-enter my life. Am I "that hot" ... lol no but they realized their mistakes.
Making your W face the fact she may also regret her mistakes and never have a 2nd chance with you,
will make her think twice about this. Her arse has never been put in the fire pit. Let's see how she reacts
A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past