I've been married for 7.5 years. We've had ups and downs. We are both pretty stubborn. I have a porn addiction. 3 years ago she kicked me out because of it. It was while she was staying in the hospital with complications prior to the birth of our son. Yeah.
I was out for about 2 weeks. It wasn't until after he was born a month later that we started to rekindle. It was really never the same. I was trying to make it a contest. She is kinda bossy, and I wanted to make sure I was the boss. It didn't work. I also tried to bring the porn into the bedroom. Not literally, at first. But I wanted her to do more and more weird things. A few weeks ago, I dropped a hint that I wanted her to watch porn also. It didn't go over too well. I stopped using it but I was looking for an excuse. Not the model Christian I should have been. I talked a good talk but that's it.
I have also been using sales tactics to manipulate her. She's heard enough pitches to be immune.
Anyway, we got into an argument that lasted a week. Finally I gave her an ultimatum. Support me in my medical time of need, or stay with your parents for a few days. She protested, but I pushed and pushed and pushed. She left. That was Saturday.
Now, she wants a divorce and is relentless to get it done now. I don't want one.
I took a look at everything and with the time alone, time to reflect, I see where I went wrong. I didn't put her before me, and I didn't put God in the center of our marriage. I know this isn't a Christian site, but these are my values, even if I forgot them for a while. She fell in love with me, but fell back out.
She's been sending me very nasty texts out of anger. I know they are angry. But they are really hurtful and it's tough to take. I know this is mostly my fault, and I only skimmed the surface of the issues, but I included the major stuff. Both of us have issues but I should have been a different man.
Really hoping for a reconciliation, but not until I have made some changes in me.