Well, August 1st, she left. Got a place on her own then January 1st, she moved in her boyfriend to live with her. I have accepted that we'll never be together, have moved on and have a wonderful girlfriend of my own who I care about very deeply now.
Anyhow, today my soon to be ex, texts me like crazy saying she wants to come home, has asked her boyfriend to get out and just wants her old life back with me.
When she left, she left as a walk away wife. She was having an affair with the very guy she is now kicking out. She seems so lost and I cannot trust her anymore. We have kids together, but that's not a good enough reason to reconcile in my mind. Plus I can't really forgive her for what she's done in cheating on me. PLUS I really like my girlfriend, she's an upgrade in every way.
I don't have feelings for the ex, but she's pulling out the "we should try for the kids" line. Guilting me into anything is kinda dumb. My GF is way better. I just wanted to see if anyone else was going through this.
I'm a FWS so I feel for the woman...sorry. There's lots of these types of stories here where the BS has said no effin way and now they are reconciling. Look at Rookie4's threads.
Yes, I agree saying get back together for the kids is a guilt trip but is also legitimate. She shouldn't be using it tho.
Are you willing to give her a chance to prove herself? Obviously you are asking for a reason, something inside you somewhere is wondering if you should....
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I told her I wanted this before, she didn't. She gave up, ran away, broke my heart and refused to even consider giving me any chance. Now that things are done with her stupid BF, she wants to come back. How can I trust her again? (I can't). The love is gone and I'm not sure I want to even entertain getting hurt by her again, (which I think I would IF I ever got back with her).
She didn't like that but is really kissing ass at this point.
I can't even imagine anything physical with her. All I'd be thinking of is her stupid ex BF. That would drive me crazy.
FWS - former wayward spouse.
To me, it sounds like you are still very angry. Plus you have someone new in your life which helps. 13 years and 4 kids is a lot to give up. Yes, I realize she gave it up first but you now have a chance to save it.
It is possible to reconcile but it takes two. Has she shown any remorse at all? Did she kick the bf out or did he dump her?
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