Can you be friends with your Ex??? - Talk About Marriage
Reconciliation This forum is for those focused on reconciliation and success stories from people who have been through separation and reconciled successfully.

User Tag List

LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
post #1 of 1 (permalink) Old 02-04-2013, 02:06 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Kansas
Posts: 83
Can you be friends with your Ex???

I have posted here a few times about my situation. Was engaged to a wonderful man. Him 32 (2 girls 12 & 9) Me 27 (3 girls 8, 6, & 5) We now have a beautiful son together who is 4 months old.
Long story short we were suppose to get married back in Aug 2012 he moved out that moved instead. A lot of silly stuff. To be honest it was never anything that SERIOUS like cheating, lying.
Well I can say I was needy during my pregnancy and he was not as available due to work and school. When he moved out tried to move on he wanted me to move to his town in a few months and I said no. I was too hurt at the time.
Well I've realized after having time to get over some hurt that I really want to have a real shot at this. We both have done this on occasion. I told him today I was to move up there. He said he was confused. He said there was a lot damage and that we hadn't treated each other the greatest. I told him that I thought it was now about recovering and moving on. He told me that is what you do when you have a foundation. He felt like a failure with me since he had let me down in many ways. I told him we can start anew and I am done blaming him for things of the past. He told me that He was not ready to give me the things I needed. (He is getting ready to start a labor intensive 2 year medical program).
I am not sure what to do here? Any advice? I love this man dearly and don't want to lose him or my family. He says time heals a lot of things but I think it will only hurt here since we aren't in a relationship. This allows for people to date other people and/or move farther apart. I look at it like either we are working on being together or working on being apart.
Now I will say this man tells me he cares deeply for me, and always will. He cares about me like he has never cared for anyone. He did say something yesterday, "Until I feel good about myself I can't go on with you or anyone else". I guess I am just confused and looking for any ounce of hope here?

1lostintranslation is offline  
Sponsored Links

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Husband seems to be upset that his friends are friends with me-HELP Samayouchan General Relationship Discussion 29 10-05-2012 10:05 AM
No MALE friends, and female friends needs his approval. hurtfulgoodtimes General Relationship Discussion 16 06-16-2011 10:19 AM
Ladies, do you have guy friends that really are just friends? MrRomantic The Ladies' Lounge 23 07-25-2010 10:39 PM
I really need some friends BorrowedHalo The Ladies' Lounge 14 07-08-2010 11:15 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome