Originally Posted by Shadow_Nirvana View Post
I think you should post this in the "Coping With Infidelity" thread.
She needs to go NC for the marriage to have a chance, that's the basic step. But she probably won't, so I don't think you'll have too much of a choice beside divorce.
And by the way, the out-of-state function, they wil definitely go physical, if they haven't already.
At this point in time, knowing how she feels about what she want's, I don't see the logic of her not telling me the truth about not going there for an affair.
This morning was a full scale yelling match, me asking if she was planning on an affair. She says there are no such plans but wants the opportunity to have one if the physical attraction is there.
I might add that this guy doesn't even know she is married. I asked her previously if she had told him and she said she came clean and he still wanted to be friends. Another conversation revealed she lied to me. She openly admitted that she lied and hasn't told him she is married. I have his email address but am hesitant to mail him and tell him. I feel it's not fair to him not knowing. On the other hand I want to keep a remote amount of respect to my wife and not tell him.
As I mentioned in my reply to hibiscus, she wants the opportunity to explore and have this as an open ended relationship for now. I have to come to a decision on whether or not I can live with that or seek a divorce. In either case she says she still wants to be "best friends" and doesn't want me to leave our home. She knows my whole life is here and all that I love is here. I'm just not if sure she's doing this out of pity or simply convenience or keeping the possibility of finding her real love for me again.
Also this out of state function is a type of Marti gras affair and it's not her daughter who is going with her but 2 lesbian friends lol
If an admin of this site thinks this topic should be moved please do so.
Also, my wife is not a lesbian