Re: Are you a husband who moved out ;but now want R?
been there, done that. after my wifes affair, i left.
but eventually i came back home. i really dont have a solid reason why. its not because of her. in fact, i think the pain and shock and crushing hurt that comes from soemthing like this can only be dealt with by getting out.
so why did i come back...biggest reason...two kids. but i also missed my "old life". my home and way of life that had been something i put together for the last 15 years, kind of hard to explain.
so i just went back to test the water. the spouse of course is sorry, but she is the type who wants to move quickly away from a problem and not really examine what happened and why.
bottom line..... i have lost spark, love, respect for my wife. Im not dashing down to file for divorce, but i know that i dont give two cents about her anymore. i had to go to her sisters wedding and watch the vows. all that went though my head was how my wife tossed hers aside. needless to say, i got plowed at the party and dont even remember half the night. she will never understand why, nor how i will ever be totally free of the pain she casued.
so........R? dont think there ever really is such a thinng in my life with her.