Re: How do I win my wifes heart back!
Okay I'm getting mixed signals here from you. Its either you take her back or you don't.
She cheated. She has confessed to you about it, says she wants you back, and she feels remorse about it.
Your reaction is natural, the betrayal, the pain. However, if you still love your wife, and you say it yourself that she is your life, then accept her back before you lose her for the final time. Confirm first if the other man is still around, because it sounds like he still is if she has hesitation to go back home. You can't fix anything if he is around.
If she says he isn't then tell her that you would like to work on things but that for your peace of mind, you can only do so with total transparency. If she cannot agree to this, then something is still happening with the other man. But if she agrees, then you both are on the same page. You want her back and she wants you back. Keep on doing things with her and don't try to force anything new on her yet. Let her come around, and she will.
And swallow your pride on this one. You dated other women during the separation, probably had sex with them too. Time will heal things, but not if you keep on thinking about the past.
If she is your life do not let her go.