Re: Sating friends, better or worse chance of R?
Yeah , people have done a good job here explaining pros and cons.
For me , don't know. Definitely not good friends if your not good enough to stay married too l feel. Friendly , cool .
Us , we sep 9mths ago. Her choice, 1 d 12.
lt's been damn hard to know how to be but my d is priority one and making this as easier as poss.
So to save her at least one belt of house hopping , l visit there 1 or 2 wk nights for a few hours. x is usually there to and often chats away. We still mostly get along very well but this is for my d.
lf not for her , apart from our finances and house l don't think l'd see x.
But , l do think it has advantages maybe for R but mind you , that's just a thought.
l can see it stopping her , you from moving on and along the way you also reconnect a lot . Things can happen from that maybe , restart , soften hearts maybe . There are people here doing that and it is at least keeping them partly together and some thinking R .
Maybe that's a better chance than opening the gate and them playing the field , not sure !
With us it's very mixed . x has changed back a lot to herself and l can see she usually looks forward to me getting there.
l'm not sure in what way though. Thought she was turning to R but some bad stuff this wk makes me think l was wrong .
l wasn't so much waiting , l'm going on with llife , but l am to secretly open , maybe !
So it can be very confusing , maybe stop you moving on , maybe it has some of the bad points too , l'm still not sure.