Re: Wife feels dead inside no longer wants to try..
Let's see if I understand this correctly. You are talking about both types of intimacy, right? And the timeline is that 1) you were not pleasing her in the bedroom, 2) both of you started to feel more self conscious as a result, 3) you stopped showing her the other types of intimacy because you did not want to hurt her, i.e. you did not want to get her revved up for sex by being more distant and 4) your wife hit her limit and is now wanting the divorce.
Is this correct, or is the intimacy you are referring to completely related to spending time together, cuddling, holding hands, professing your love, etc and has nothing to do with sex?