Husband ruining the marriage
I have been married for 8 months now, and starting from the 2nd month into our marriage, My husband and I would fight every weekend about his drinking. I would plead and cry to him to stop drinking, that this is not him. He wasn't violent, but he just didn't know when to stop and didn't know his limit.. to the point where it was just so embarrasing to see him like that.. which hurted. numerous time, i have tried to until he got arrested for DWI - he had to wear those scram braclet for 3 months, and is currently on probation and attending classes. as soon as the braclet went off, he was at the bar. he was like he knows his limit which is two drinks, i said fine, now u know and be more responsible now.
going further, he would go by our friends house and drink with the guys.. and than turn around and talk so negatively about me to my own friends. they would come back and tell me, and i would just brush it aside. the final straw was for his bday that he got so drunk and i was so embarrass. i told him stop, his parents intervene.. that didnt help. than over the weekend, he was drinking 3 days straight and talk negatively about me. I told him i am done, and he wants to work things out.. my mom got involve, and spoke to him, and advice to me I should give it one more chance. I hope i am doing the right thing. my friends think i have gotten weak, and that he got his fingers twisted around my mom and I.
I have no emotions in any loving way for him right now... he battered it so much, that i cant even force to love him that way as before. i do care for him,but how much more can a person take. he said he will try, I just hope he will do it for himself and for us.
Do you think an alcholic can change, and I hope I made the right decision in listening to my mom.